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MONEY MINDSET 101

It doesn’t have to be uncomfortable to talk about money. Recognizing your money mindset is the first step to improving your relationship with money. Let’s dive in.

MONEY MINDSET

“Money = value. The more value you give to the people who value what you do the most, the more you make – period.”

Are you ready for what may be considered an uncomfortable topic today?

Let’s talk about money. 

As you probably know, I am all about finding comfort in the discomfort. So today, I want YOU to find comfort in talking about money.

Because the truth is, money being seen as an off-limit topic is not helping ANYONE and is contributing to why many of us feel uncomfortable just thinking about money and our finances.

It’s time to change your mindset about money.

TUNE IN AS I DISCUSS:

  • My top three money mindset tips to start to up-level your money game
  • Why your thoughts around money may be preventing you from having more of it and how to shift those thoughts
  • How my family history and personal relationship with money has impacted my growth

…and so much more

This may be uncomfortable for some of you, but it’s time to break the chain and change our thoughts around money. Are you with me? Tune in at the top of this page.

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Full Transcript:

Episode 127: MONEY MINDSET 101

This is the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast with Lindsay Preston Episode 127, Money Mindset 101.

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Welcome to the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast, the show for goal-getting, fear-facing women for kicking ass by creating change. I’m your host, Lindsay Preston. I’m a wife, mom of two, and a multi-certified life coach to women all over the world. I’ve lived through enough in life to know that easier doesn’t always equate to better. We can’t fear the fire, we must learn to become it. On this show, I’ll teach you how to do just that. Join me as I challenge you to become even more of the strong, resilient, and powerful woman you were meant to be. Let’s do this.

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Hi there, Ms. Unstoppable. Today I am recording in Mexico in a hotel room on my phone. I know the past two episodes I’ve been recording on my phone. The audio quality probably isn’t great unless my editor Paroma who is amazing made it sound awesome. Just with scheduling things and honestly just getting a little bit behind at recording these, I just have to make do with what I’ve got. I appreciate you listening because today’s episode is a great one. We’re going to be talking about money and honestly, I could not have picked a better time to record this episode while being in Mexico.

I’m actually here with just my husband. We left the kids at home. It’s our first no kids trip in five years, which is crazy. I don’t know how we let that go for five years, having a baby and all the things. It can be all consuming in some ways but we’re here just me and him and we’re actually here because his work, they have incentive trips. Every so often when they hit a certain amount of money that they have for assets under management, and he’s a wealth manager, then everyone gets a trip.

I’m here with a lot of people that he works with all of which deal with money all day long and so I’ve definitely had money on my mind a lot. Also being here in Mexico and seeing just a different way of living and the way that they serve people in this country made me think a lot about money too. Again, I couldn’t have thought of a better time to do this episode other than the audio quality probably not being the best but yes. Today we’re going to talk about money mindset 101. I’m going to teach you three things to start to do to up-level your money game.

Now I just want to give you a quick little history of my money story for you. I grew up what I would consider upper middle class. My dad is an engineer or was an engineer. My mom stayed at home but then she would also go and work from time to time doing various things. She had a background in education. She was never a teacher but she would write different programming and stuff like that for educational programs and doing different technical writing. This is right when the computer boom was happening. My parents stayed pretty well. I grew up in an environment where we were never worried about money.

Now money was talked about often in a way of, we’re not going to buy that or that’s too fancy because both of my parents grew up in environments where money was pretty tight. My dad grew up with a single mom in the 1950s and 60s. That was a big deal. My grandma worked at a factory in Michigan. Then my mom’s parents were both teachers and educators. They actually did pretty well. Obviously educators don’t make a ton of money but my grandparents grew up in the great depression.

Specifically my grandfather on my mom’s side grew up during what was called the Dust Bowl, I believe, in Texas and he was a farmer. His family was farmers. They were literally dirt poor. Some of those things have been passed down to me of just anxiety really around money and money not being something you splurge with. There were some thoughts about rich people that were passed down to me. I didn’t really understand those things until I did the exercises that I’m going to teach you today to really start to change my own mindset with money.

Now my own personal story with money is that again, I grew up upper middle class. I went to a private school. My education was completely paid for which was probably about a 100k. Again, I know I’m very blessed but I will say in that environment I was like the kid that didn’t get to really enjoy that so much. I had to work the whole time. Now I was also in a sorority and so my parents said, “Well, if you’re going to do this sorority thing then you need to pay for your own dues and pay for your own social life,” which is completely understandable.

I grew up in an environment there with all my friends who didn’t have to do that and who were just given frankly like hundreds and hundreds of dollars every week to just even go like blow at the time Banana Republic was like the big thing or even go to Neiman Marcus which Neiman, it’s a very nice store. Lots of money and I always just felt like, “Ugh, why don’t I get to really enjoy money and have money?” I consistently felt like I didn’t get to enjoy money in life as much as my friends then.

Again, I’m not blaming my parents for that. Again, I understand how luxurious that is to just be able to give your kids hundreds of dollars. I’m not saying I’m for that but growing up especially as a teenager it was just like, “Uh, this stinks.” That entitlement piece. Again, I didn’t quite feel like I fit in with my peers with money because of reasons like that. Then I go into the working world and immediately right away I just started to undervalue myself in a variety of ways of taking lower pay than I should. Dating people that probably weren’t the greatest. Now everything happens for a reason, I have peace with that, but I didn’t really have a lot of money training even.

I remember when in college they have these tables where these credit card companies would set up. They’d be be like come by, come get this free cool shirt. It’d be like some party kind of shirt and we’d all be like, “Yes, let’s go get these shirts.” We would sign up for these credit cards and then I’d get these credit cards in the mail and I would just start using them. Again, I just had very little training about money during those years, very little concept of how anything worked and then even when I went to the working world of like, “I don’t know how much money I need to survive or to thrive with, I don’t know what other people are making.” It just was like money was not on my radar at all.

It really wasn’t until later, a couple years later in the work, like my mid 20s, when I ended up pregnant with my daughter was when I really sat down with money. Granted, at this time too I’d already had a business, a dance studio. There I was looking at money but I remember telling my boss, because for a while my dance studio was owned by somebody else and I ran it, I remember saying, “I really need some training about money. I know how much money is going out, I can easily track that, but I really don’t understand how much is coming in and how to plan for that and use that to the best of my advantage.” I still didn’t get that training because then they ended up giving the dance studio to me.

Anyways, it wasn’t until my mid 20s that I sit down with my then partner and said, “We’ve got to look at our bills. We’ve got to figure out what’s going on here,” and started to have somewhat of a responsibility around money. It was that time when we became very eye-opening that we didn’t have a whole lot of money. We did but yet we were blowing a lot of money. For example, he was making, gosh, I think around 60K per year. Then when I got pregnant with my daughter, I quit my dance studio and I was just taking temp jobs. I really wasn’t making very much, maybe like 20, 30K because I wasn’t working full time either.

He was driving a brand new infinity that he was leasing. We were going shopping for clothes all the time. Just those two expenses alone is not smart for somebody making that amount of money. There was a lot to clean up there. Again, when I was with him, he never really wanted to look at money with me and it wasn’t until him and I broke up that then I was a single mom and for awhile I didn’t have a job. I was going through a divorce, didn’t have a job intentionally because I wanted to stay home with my daughter and transition her through the divorce.

I really had to sit down and look at money, establish a very firm budget and live on that very, very firm budget which for a while was only about 3K a month. Just to give you some insight, my mortgage was about 1,300. About half of my money was going to my mortgage and so the rest of that money had to be budgeted well. For those years that I was a single mom thinking about that money, every day I’d sit down with an excel spreadsheet and I would track every single purchase down to the penny of my money.

Again, I wasn’t at a place where I was really looking at the future. I was just looking at the present, but I will say during those years when I was tracking every single penny and I started to really appreciate the value of money and I started to really appreciate life, to be honest with you. During those years, even though on paper I had very little money, those are some of the happiest years of my life. At this time I started dating my now husband, who I said, is a money guy and I was very open with him about my money. There would be times he would give me these looks of like, “Oh my gosh, I’m scared for you.” To me, I was very rarely scared. In essence I was very happy with my life.

I realized during that time that you really don’t need a lot of money to have a great life and to be happy. It was actually very freeing for me during those years to realize that I don’t need to be a part of what we sometimes call like this rat race of chasing money and fame or admiration, because I was very, very happy with the very simple life I had with my daughter. Just living very cleanly in essence, living just with the things that we needed on our basics.

Then I married my husband. My husband, as I said, is a money guy. He does retirement planning and so many other things for his clients and so I’ve started to learn that world. I must admit that world bores me to a point where he starts throwing out all these letters and numbers and all this stuff I’m trying to keep my eyes open. If you could tell me a number, I would instantly forget it. But if you tell me a story about your life, I will remember it forever. [chuckles] My brain just does not remember numbers very well. I just don’t find money and investing interesting or future planning interesting at all. I’m very grateful I have him and he finds that very interesting.

I will say what’s been really cool about our partnership together, my husband and I, is that I’m really good at the day-to-day. He’s really good at the future planning and in that we have both been able to lean on each other to show each other, in essence, what’s the word here, holes in our money mindset. For example, when I met him, he was all about, this is what I want my future, but he wasn’t getting what he wants in his future because he wasn’t on top of his present day-to-day and I had no concept of the future whatsoever. I’m still like that. If you know, CliftonStrengths, I do not have the strength of futuristic heights. It’s one of my lowest. I totally live in the moment. We were starting to, in essence, show each other holes in our money mindset as I was learning personal development and all the things.

Now we’re at a place when he came and we started dating in 2013, so gosh, eight years ago, he had about 350K saved in his retirement accounts. Based off what we’ve been able to do together between saving and mindset things and just teaming up together, we’re now at a place, we were just talking about it yesterday, where we’re reaching a million dollars between our house and the equity we have in our house, and then what we have in retirement accounts. We’ve been able to make really great shifts the past few years. On paper you can be like, oh, yes, because you guys have saved this amount of money. Then the market has been able to do X, Y, Z to take that money and grow it. It’s all comes down to money mindset because if you don’t have the right mindset, you’re not going to take the right actions to get the results that you want.

I often talk about, on the show, a tool called the model and the model is all about that. It’s never about the circumstance of how much money you have, or don’t have this case. It’s about your thoughts about that money or that circumstance that then drive your feelings and those feelings drive your actions to create the results you want. Today, as I said, we’re going to talk about my top three money mindset tips. Let’s dive into that.

The first one is pretty simple yet so complex at the same time, because it’s going to take you bringing thoughts into your conscious awareness. That is always the hardest part. Once you can bring something into your awareness, that gives you the power to change it. But if you’re not aware of something, of course, how are you going to change it? An exercise I encourage you to do is to write on the top of a piece of paper, something like money. If you hear voices in the background it’s because people are walking by my hotel room, but write at the top of the page, money, and then write all your thoughts about money.

It can be things like money doesn’t grow on trees. Money is hard to come by. Money is evil. You can have positive thoughts on there too of money equals freedom. Money is a way to give back. Regardless of what comes out, just try and get as much as you can down on paper about your thoughts about money. It may be an exercise that maybe you open a note doc on your phone, and then you just keep coming back to it and coming back to it to pull more thoughts into your awareness, because the more you can understand what you’re thinking about money, the more you’re going see that you’re creating those results in your life.

If you think money is hard to come by, for example, money is probably hard to come by in your life. If you think money is evil or bad or greedy or wrong, you’re probably going to, what’s the word. I can’t think of the words today. I want to say detach, but that’s not the right word. Whatever. Deflect, there we go. You’re going to deflect money from you. Same with, if you’re thinking you have to work really hard for money, you’re probably going to have to work really hard for money.

One thought that I pulled, it actually comes from a 90s song, I think from Biggie Smalls, more money, more problems. I remember saying that often for awhile, it’s like, “Oh, more money, more problems. I don’t want that.” Of course I wasn’t making more money because I thought the more money I have, the more problems I’m going to have. It’s just one little thought like that, that is going to impact you likely in a very big way in regards to how much money you are bringing in.

You may already be very uncomfortable because in your brain, you may be like, “Yes, Lindsay, but money is really bad,” or, “Money is really wrong,” or, “It’s greedy,” or whatever your thoughts are about that. You feel like those are hard truths for you. That’s great. You are welcome to think whatever you want about money, but I just want you to sit down and really think, are these thoughts serving me? Is it serving me not to have the amount of money I want? Is it serving me to have to work really hard for money? Is it serving me to have really negative thoughts about money and people who have money?

Because really at the end of the day, we want money in the hands of people who are going to do good things with it. I’m sorry. You can hear my husband’s phone in the background, but especially if you look at the research, women who have money give back, and so the more women that have more money, the more we’re going to be giving to communities and to people who don’t have necessarily the opportunities that we have as a likely working woman in the world.

As I’m thinking about here, as I’m in Mexico, I was even talking to my husband. I was like, “Hey, have you noticed that most of the waiters here at our hotel, they’re mostly men where the women tend to have these jobs that maybe they’re not getting as much tips from.” I’m like, “Man, that’s so sexist and such BS because the men have these opportunities to make their likely hourly wage. Then tips on top of that but the women don’t.” I just I’m so appreciative yet again of being a woman. In the United States, you may be in another country where you have opportunity. I have clients in New Zealand and Germany and Australia, for example. They have obviously opportunity there.

Now we definitely have our setbacks. The gender wage difference is still there. Especially if you’re a woman of color, don’t even get me started because it’s even worse, but we still have these opportunities. The more that we can work on our money mindset, the more we can open ourselves up to abundance to take that in, because not only is money about somebody giving money to us, it’s about us being open and receptive and available to be able to take that money.

That’s part of the problem with women, generally speaking, is that we’re typically not in a mindset that we feel deserving and we feel confident to be able to accept that abundance. Whereas generally speaking, men do. They feel more confident and just more deserving, I guess is the word here to really say, “Yes, I’ll take that raise.” “Yes, I’ll take that promotion. “Yes, I’ll take whatever opportunity you want to give me where women are like, “Uh, I don’t know. I don’t quite have all the qualifications to get that new role.” “Oh, I’m not going to apply,” or, “I’m not going to ask for a raise, I’m just going to take what I’m given,” versus generally speaking men do that stuff.

Now, I will say too, I’m not saying that gender and race and many other things like maybe even your sexual orientation, all those things play into society being able and open to give you abundance. Let’s just say, statistically speaking, me as a white woman and then a Black woman go in for the same job interview, and they want both of us, and maybe there’s two positions available, I would hope that they would be offering us the same amount of money. Of course, if we’re both equally skilled and all of that, but statistically speaking, they may be likely offering me a little bit more money than they would my Black counterpart.

Now if we add in white male in that, they may be offering him even more and so that’s where we have to realize, yes, we need to work on our money mindset. Absolutely, we need to be open and receptive and ready for that abundance, but I don’t want to downplay that there are still some societal issues here at play blocking us from abundance. No matter what work we do on our own mindsets to have the relationship we want with money and to think about it the way we want and to be open and receptive to that, we still have to be educated of things like bias, be educated in regards to how much is other people in this role making, and really realize and educate, unfortunately, other people of, “Hey, this is gender bias. This is race bias. This is bias because of my sexual orientation and things of that sort and that is why you’re not giving me these opportunities.”

We can go down a whole other rabbit hole with that. I’m actually going to be bringing on my anti-racism coach, Alyssa Hall, on the show soon, where we’re going to be talking more about this, because it’s a tricky place. We want to be able to be open and receptive to abundance, but we also have to recognize that even when we’re the most receptive and open that we can ever be, there’s still going to likely be bias against us and so, it is on our shoulders sometimes to fight for ourselves, and to educate others and be like, “Hey, you are actually doing this because I’m a woman and you don’t even mean to do it per se, but you’re doing this and here’s why.”

That’s why, again, I do the work that I do in the world to help women own their power and to speak their truth and own their voice and do all that stuff. I’m going to be adding in more of the work I’ve been doing with Alyssa and to my coaching and programs to help women be able to have these conversations and know too when they’re being discriminated against, especially when it comes to money.

Total side tangent, back to point number one, think about your relationship with money. Something like money at the top of the page, write all your thoughts down. I also encourage you to write at the top of a page, rich people and what your thoughts are about rich people and write poor people, and what your thoughts are about poor people. Hey, you just want to bring to your conscious mind the thoughts you’re thinking about people, because if you’re having all these negative thoughts about rich people, of course you’re going to deflect money from you.

If you have all these thoughts about poor people and how bad and scary and all those things are, or maybe that’s really honorable to be a poor person, none of those are true, because I’ve been with somebody without money. Now, granted not poor-poor but without money and that’s why, again, I said that time of my life was so beautiful because I realized it’s like, money does not make my life necessarily any better. What money allows me to create is just more freedom for me to be able to have freedom with more time, and to have freedom with the choices that I am able to make and money also gives me an opportunity to give back more and I love that about money.

I know that money is not going to make me any happier, or any better in my life. I realize even recently when we went to Hawaii, I would be totally content living in a tent on the beach in Hawaii for the rest of my life, and so times too I do get really stressed about money, and so I’ve decided to think about money just like, “What is money, Lindsay? it’s just money. It’s just money.” I’m able to calm myself out of that.

Especially if you’ve had a childhood, like some of my clients and my husband included in that where you didn’t have a lot of money, you’re going to have more to clean up likely around your money mindsets, because you had times that are “scary” or “hard,” especially if it was framed in that way to you when you were a kid, because a child’s brain is highly emotional, you’re looking to the outside world, especially your parents and caregivers, to help you define the outside world and so you’re likely taking on their beliefs about money as well. If you think again like, “Oh my God, not having money is really bad and scary and that was a really bad and scary time for us,” that was just the way it was framed for you. It may have had bad and scary times in there, but that may not be only because of money. It’s just really important you spend time analyzing your thoughts about money.

What I have my clients do in My Living the Dream program, which is my program for ongoing clients is they have a whole training about money and I have them write their money story, so from even before they were born, what their parents money relationship was like and what their money stories that they know of were. What they inherited from them and then what their money story was and things like their first money memories in there, because that highly impacted their views about money. There’s a lot more that you can do here but the first thing to do is to just really start to think, what are my thoughts about money?

Then step two is to think about, what do I want to think about money? You may want to think something like money is amazing and wonderful and great and I want more of it, but there’s a part of your brain that’s like, eh, I don’t really believe that. That just seems really out there and too airy fairy for me. Maybe you want to get to that place, where you are just so in love with money and you think it’s the most beautiful thing in the world, but you need to start by shifting your beliefs to things that are just believable enough.

For me, I’ve said just a minute ago, a thought that I have is money is just money. I just want to get to a place where money is neutral. Money is just money, money is just money because I do find myself getting caught up a lot still with money equals success, money equals respect. The more I earn the more people are going to pay attention. Those are thoughts I’m currently working through in my money game. Now I’ve up-leveled a lot over the years because I’ve done this exercise over and over again, but I’m getting to a place where it’s like, ugh, I feel myself just getting a little bit too attached to money and how much I’m making and what that means about me and so the thought that I’m using that feels right to me at this time, it feels just believable enough is money is just money. Money is just money.

Then I maybe add on a couple of thoughts on top of that of things like, I’m respected just as I am, the amount of money I make or doesn’t make doesn’t matter. Instead of money equals success, of success equals having a balanced and beautiful life and beautiful to me meaning like a present life. That’s step two is to start to think, what do I intentionally want to think about money and just sing those over and over again, and really taking time to envision when you say it and holding space for that thought for about 16 seconds, that’s what research has shown as the time that it takes to really start to cement in the brain every day of you saying that.

Now it’s going to take you at least 21 days for a brain wire to form, to start to fully believe that belief even more and some research shows it takes far more than 21 days, but you’ll know when you get to a place of you’re saying something intentionally every day of like, money is just money. Money is just money. To a place where you start to say it and you’re like, yes, money is just money. I don’t need to say this anymore. It’s just a part of me. I just believe it in every cell of my being, and then you don’t say it anymore. Then maybe you decide, okay, now I want to believe money is abundant or money is my best friend or whatever you want and go from there.

Now, the third tip that I want to give you is to not only—we’ve talked about bringing awareness, what you think about money, getting intentional and starting to program what you want to think about money, but step three is really understanding where money comes from, because a lot of people too, when they have these negative thoughts about money, like money is hard and money is for greedy and all these things, they then sabotage themselves from having more money. In essence, they almost become like a victim of like, oh, well, my boss is such a jerk or this thing happened to me or that thing happened to me or it’s because I’m a woman kind of thing which I’m not discrediting that we don’t always have the same opportunities, again, especially if you’re a woman of color, but when you’re in that space of victimhood, you’re not in a space of necessarily neutrality and of gratitude and of a place where you’re giving service, because money comes from value. The more value you give to the world, the more you’re going to get back.

Now there’s a trick in this, is not only is it you showing up and giving immense value, it’s finding the people who value it the most. An example that I typically give, and it’s one that I actually heard. I don’t know where I heard it from, but if you are a chef and you’ve trained in the best culinary school, and then you go to a school cafeteria and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, I can make these five course meals and all of the stuff,” they’re going to be like, ‘”Well, that’s great but all we need you to do is just make mashed potatoes and warm up the chicken nuggets and it pays $10 an hour.” You’re going to be like, “But wait a second. I’m so much more talented than this. I can do all these things,” and they’ll be like, “Yes, but the job description says, and this is what we want. We don’t really care you can do all those other things. We don’t value those other things.”

Versus if this person goes to a five-star restaurant and they’re like, “Yes, oh my gosh. We are going to pay you 1,000$ an hour to do these amazing meals. We’re going to celebrate you. You’re going to be the star of our show. We’re going to tell everybody in town about how we have this new chef.” You see the difference in that? So not only is a job for you to get to a place where you’re giving immense value, which is a mindset game, I will tell you.

This is what I’m doing with my clients in essence is the first three months of coaching we’re coaching on all their blocks and the things that are holding them back from getting the goals they want, which may be more money, an up-level in their career, and maybe some other things in their personal life or internally, we’re coaching on all those things to get that out of their mind, not out of their mind, but to heal those things so then they can get to a place of neutrality and getting to a place where they can serve at a higher level and that’s when my clients typically make more money, they get promotions, they have better relationships.

They feel better because they’ve cleared out some of the blocks and trauma, in essence, from their mind and in their bodies so they can get to a place where they’re more neutral and they’re feeling more grateful and more joyous and because of that they’re serving more in the world. They’re giving more value in the world versus being up in their head and being low energy and so because of that the world is like, yes, let me give you these raises.

Again, sometimes for my clients, it’s not that they are getting a raise at their current job, it’s that then they’re at a different energy frequency that then they’re able to apply for the jobs that maybe they didn’t apply for before, or they get more clients if they’re an entrepreneur or they’re in a sales position. Just new things start to come their way because they’re in a different energetic space and typically too because they’re in that different energetic space they’re matched back with people in that same energetic space.

The best example I can give of this is when I go and I eat at different restaurants, typically when I’m going to a restaurant, because I used to be a server, I was a server in college is I’m like, “I am ready for an experience tonight.” Even if I’m just going to like, what we call a Chili’s, which is just like a little place in the corner where you get like burgers and stuff like that, not a fancy place, but I’m going and I’m like, I’m ready to be served. I don’t have to make dinner tonight. This is great, really not wow me, but just give me great service because I find so much value in having a great experience and not having to cook a meal for my family.

What stinks is when I go and my server is not ready to serve, not open for abundance, and I still end up giving like a 20% tip, which is typical around in the US at least, but I’m like, “ugh, but I was ready to really–” “If you were to really like wow me, or just give me great service, I would be open to giving you so much more but you weren’t open to it.” Versus if I go and I’m just really wowed and I’ve been given great service then I’m in this energetic match with this person. They’re just open to that abundance. Hope that makes sense.

That’s what I really want you to wrap your head around too, especially when I have clients who are transitioning into entrepreneurship. In the corporate world typically you’re just given a salary and you need to deliver value and meet your goals, but in entrepreneurship, especially when you’re starting a new business, you have to build a value bank, in essence, is what we call it and you have to go out and you have to meet a lot of people. You have to be of value and service to them. You have to give, give, give, give, give, typically before you start to see a return on that.

For example, with this podcast that I do every single week, that we have a million steps between editing and all the stuff’s up, my admin, Rachel, does with show notes and getting this in the podcast book and social posts and all the emails and all the things. This is a free thing that we invest money and we invest time into, but this is me building my value bank. Somebody finds a podcast, they listen to some episodes and they’re like, “Oh my gosh, I want to hire a Lindsay.” That’s when I start to see a return on the investment of me investing my time and energy into the show. In essence, I’m building this value bank. Then every once in a while I get to take returns from that.

If you can just remember that, that money comes from value. You want to be in a space where you can show up fully as yourself without any attachment to the outcome, which I know for some of you that may be a little bit above your head. It’s something I work on with my clients, is not be attached. Then find those people who value it the most. Again, I’ll give you another example. In my world as a coach, if I’m going into a room where people don’t care about personal development or mindset, or they’re not women, and I’m telling them about coaching, they’re going to be like, “Why would anybody want to buy that?” And I would make no money, but I have to get into rooms and get in front of people who are going to value what I do. Then of course they’re like, “Oh my gosh, I want to hire this girl. Of course her prices make sense because it’s such value to me because I want X, Y, or Z results so much, and she can help me do that.”

Anyways, I hope you have some takeaways today about money and improving your own mindset. I promise it’s so much easier than you think. We think money is so complex and hard. As I said earlier, when my husband gets into all the investing stuff and my mind starts to spin and I get really tired, that stuff is a little bit more complex, at least for me, but the basic money mindset stuff that I taught you today is to find those beliefs, get aware of what you think about money and it will take you some time. Even just open a note doc on your phone and go back to it time and time again to add more thoughts about money.

This is the value of having a coach too, is a lot of times we’re not even conscious and we’re not even aware of what we’re saying. There are times when my clients will be talking about something, especially with money and I’m like, “Hey, did you realize, you just said, dah, dah, dah?” Then they’re like, “Oh my gosh, I can’t even believe it. I can’t even believe that I think that. I’m like, “Yes, this is why I have my own coach in my own life to catch my own thoughts,: because we’re so close to our own brain sometimes that we don’t even catch things because we’ve had it around for so long. It just feels like a warm blanket to us of like, that’s just what we think. Or you don’t even question your thinking and so it takes somebody else to go in and say, “Hey, are you really sure thinking, dah, dah?” Truly, if you can just find one thought that you have and you’re able to fully shift that one thought, it can open up so many doors for you.

If you write down a ton of negative beliefs and you’re like, “Oh my gosh, this is so overwhelming. How am I ever going to get through this?” You can just start to easily start to shift one thought at a time and it will start to open doors for you. Okay? Then from there just realize money equals value. Find the people who value you the most. The easiest way to start to show up in this world and create more value is to go in and heal not only the beliefs that you have about money, but about yourself and to heal things that are trauma.

I’m not just talking about what we call big T- Trauma of abuse and things of that sort, but little t- trauma, anytime that you were talked out of your truth, anytime that you shrunk instead of expanded, which as women we do this very, very often. So we have to go in and we have to clear those things out so that you can fully stand in your power and be in this higher energy frequency to attract more abundance and be able to give even more value in the world around you.

Alright. That’s all I got for you, my friends. I hope you love this episode. If you haven’t left a review for the show, please go and do so, especially if you listen on Apple podcast. Remember, when you go leave a review for the show, go then submit your review, a picture of your review to the link that’s in the show notes, it’s lindsayepreston.com/100, and you get a free copy of the podcast book. This podcast book takes the first 100 episodes of the show and it summarizes them each into one page documents so that you truly have the study guide for life. Anytime you’re going through different things in your life, be it money or relationships or different feelings, you can go flip through that book and then get the step by steps of how to improve.

Alright. I will see you on the next episode of the show. Bye.

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