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DISTRACTION-FREE LIVING

EVERYONE has their distractions of choice. From overspending to overeating to caretaking too much to technology addictions, there are usually a few things that keep us all from living an intentional life that’s deeply fulfilling and massively productive. It doesn’t have to be this way though. You CAN cut these things out and it’s easier to do than you think. Tune in today to the show to find out what your distractions could be and how to get rid of them for life.

distration-free living

“Distractions give us endorphins in the moment, but the “good” feeling of them quickly fades. That’s because distractions are a cover for the deeper feeling, dealing, and healing work we’re avoiding.”

EVERYONE has their distractions of choice. From overspending to overeating to caretaking too much to technology addictions, there are usually a few things that keep us all from living an intentional life that’s deeply fulfilling and massively productive.

It doesn’t have to be this way though. You CAN cut these things out and it’s easier to do than you think.

When you’re able to see the things that are distractions and deal with these emotions that cause the distractions to happen, then you’re able to have time to go after your goals and dreams instead.

Living a distraction-free life is a HUGE key to making things happen in your life so tune into this episode today to learn about this important and vital strategy.

IN THIS EPISODE, I SPECIFICALLY COVER:

  • What distractions are
  • We go through some examples of distractions I test my clients on
  • How distractions are seeping into your life without you realizing it
  • How you can overcome distractions
  • What it’s costing you to live with these distractions
  • Lastly, we paint a picture of what distraction-free living could look like and how you can get there easier than you think 

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Full Transcript

This is the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast with Lindsay Preston Episode 32,
Distraction-Free Living.

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Welcome to the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast, the show for goal-getting, fearfacing women for kicking ass by creating change. I’m your host, Lindsay Preston. I’m a wife,
mom of two, and a multi-certified life coach to women all over the world. I’ve lived
through enough in life to know that easier doesn’t always equate to better. We can’t fear
the fire, we must learn to become it. On this show, I’ll teach you how to do just that. Join
me as I challenge you to become even more of the strong, resilient, and powerful woman
you were meant to be. Let’s do this.

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Hi there, Miss Unstoppable. Welcome back to the show. At this point, it’s March as this
episode’s going live. Holy moly. How are your goals going for the year? Hopefully, fingers
crossed you are not wanting to give up. I saw a stat recently of something like 80% of
people give up on their goals by mid-February and that blows my mind. We do not need to
be giving up our goals especially that early in the year. Sometimes it just takes a little bit
of time to get in the way of living of that new way of being you want to be.

You’re creating new habits and there’s just no reason to give up that soon on any kind of
goal. Every day could be January 1st for you. Please, please don’t give up on your goals but
we are going to talk about something today. If you do feel like giving up or just feeling like
you don’t have enough time or energy to go after your goals because I hear that from a lot
of women. That they’re so busy. That they just can’t see how to fit in these new things that
they want to go after.

It’s very quickly, most times we can break it down and see actually you have these pockets
of time that you’re spending on things that I call distractions. Distractions are things you’re
doing but you don’t want to be doing them. A big distraction right now in our society is
technology and especially our phones and being on social media and just scrolling and
scrolling and watching Instagram stories and all that fun stuff. All of a sudden, an hour has
passed or 30 minutes or even 15 minutes. You’re thinking, “Man, I could have used that
time a little bit differently.”

Today I want to really explain what distractions are and then show you how they may be
seeping in without you realizing it, how to overcome them, what it’s costing you to live
with distractions. Then two, paint a picture of what distraction-free living looks like
because it’s a pretty amazing place and you can get there easier than you think. That’s
what we have in store for today. I can’t wait to share it with you because I really struggled
on what to talk about for this podcast episode. I had many different ideas of where I
wanted to go. For whatever reason, I just kept hearing, talk about distractions. Talk about
distractions.

I think a big reason of that as I’m working with some clients right now who they found me
from a productivity bundle that I was a part of last year. They got all these little like minicourses and eBooks and things of that sort to help them be more productive. My breaking
barriers five-day challenge course was in that bundle. Some of them took that course. They
just got my information through that course. Then they’ve ended up working with me
throughout the past few months. They came to me and one of the big goals was, “I’m just
not productive. I’m not getting what I want out of life. I have this feeling that it’s some
mindset stuff.”

We were able to work through those things and now it’s just been such a joy to see how
they are all so massively productive in their lives and getting what they want. If you’re out
there and you’re feeling that way of, “Gosh, I just can’t squeeze in my goals and my
dreams. It just feels too hard right now where I can’t even do some basic things in life that
I know I want to be doing.” Then this episode is for you because everybody has pockets of
time to go after what they want no matter how busy they are. It’s just when you sit down
and realize, “Ooh, okay, I’m doing some things that are distractions.” Then you’re able to
see where you can put in more productive things.

All right. Let’s first break down what a distraction is. I said earlier, it’s those things you’re
doing that you don’t want to be doing. Webster defines it as it’s a thing that prevents
someone from giving full attention to something else. If that’s something else in our life is
a goal or a dream or a relationship or whatever, just something you’re wanting to work
toward that you’re not getting that’s something else. Something is preventing you from
getting there. What I’m doing with my clients as we work through my Become An
Unstoppable Woman course is they’re testing their distractions.

Distractions are actually one of the biggest top three blocks that are stopping us from
getting what we want in life. The other two are things called bullet holes. If you’ve
listened to the show a lot, you’ve heard me reference this but bullet holes are basically
things that have happened in our past. Typically from a negative experience and our brain
has wired this belief around it. Those are things that we’re holding onto in our
subconscious or unconscious mind. It’s just making us not be the person we want to be
filled the way we want to feel, do the things we want to do.

The second one is buried emotions. Typically those come off bullet holes of these feelings
of those negative things that have happened to us and we haven’t learned how to release
the feelings of that. The third is distractions and these all are a trifecta of sorts. They’re all
playing off one another. What happens is we have those bullet holes from those memories
of our past and those emotions from our past. What happens is because we haven’t learned
how to release those emotions yet and to look at our bullet holes because we have to
bring that to that conscious mind, we have distractions to fill in the gap and make us do
things of, scroll our phone.

I keep mentioning or eat or go shop or fall in love with somebody so we don’t have to
think about ourselves or caretake in more ways than we know is healthy. Again, that is a
way our brain has learned, Oh, if I go do this, it actually feels really good for a short
amount of time to go and love on something or go and shop or eat or whatever. Then I
don’t have to deal with my feelings and my emotions. I don’t have to think about those
things from my past. Maybe you’re still not even consciously aware that you’re thinking of
but they’re there and they’re making you feel crappy when you sit down and you’re alone
with yourself at times.

What happens is we just start doing these things in life we don’t really want to be doing.
As I mentioned, things like shopping, overeating, drinking too much, gossiping even being
on our phones, so on and so forth. Then all of a sudden, it’s like, we are a victim to our
lives. We have credit card debt because we shop too much. We’re overweight. We spend
too much money on alcohol or we’re just lazy. We sit in school and Netflix all day or on
social media all day. We just feel like, man, I really want to go after these things in my life
or feel more connected to myself or to others and it’s just not happening. I don’t know how
to get there.

Again, it goes back to distractions. We’ve got to learn how to find those and start to cut
those out. Now, of course, this is again, part of a trifecta going in and looking at your bullet
holes and releasing those past or buried emotions will help so much but you just cutting
distractions too, it’s going to help a lot. I want to give you some quick wins today for you
to start to cut those, to see, wow, I really am in a lot more control of my life than I ever
gave myself credit for. There really are pockets of time for me to go out and follow my
goals and dreams.

I saw a stat somewhere recently that around this time of the year, so mid-February-ish or
late February, 80% of people have given up on their new year’s resolutions already for the
year. That kills me. That does not need to happen at all. Our dreams and goals can
absolutely be attainable. Sometimes we just need a little bit of help to get there. Part of
that is that we don’t know about these three things I mentioned that are holding us back
like buried emotions or bullet holes and distractions. We think there’s just something
wrong with us or that we’re just like our victim to our lives.

Oh, it’s because our job is so busy or it’s because our kids or our husband or a partner,
whatever. Again, just totally not true. Once we know that these are the things that are
holding us back from getting what we want, that’s when we become really unstoppable
and productive and we feel great. We become the person we want to be. Oh, it’s just so
amazing. Okay. again, distractions are the things we’re not wanting to do but doing them
anyway.

Webster defines it as a thing that prevents someone from giving full attention to
something else. That something else are those goals and dreams we want to go after. Now
I mentioned a list of some of the distractions that I test my clients for in my Becoming An
Unstoppable Woman course. I do want to give you a full list of what those distractions are.

Your distractions may not even be on this list. I have some clients sometimes that say,
“Hey, I pulled this and this from this list but here’s something else that I know is a
distraction for me. I mentioned gossip earlier, but gossip is definitely a distraction
especially for a lot of women. I think we can all think about those women who every time
we get around them, it’s almost like they’re craving to know the dirt. They want to know
more about a person. They love to talk about people. They love to criticize others even if
they come across as a really nice pleasant person. I’m here in Texas in the South. A lot of
women here have this great exterior of “Hey girl, how’s it going? Hey, y’all. Oh, hi, miss you
so much.”

The second you turn around, they’re talking crap behind your backs. Very common.
There’s just the people that love to talk about other people. They sometimes are just easily
driven to finding fault in others so that they can gossip about it. They like to analyze
people regularly of like, “Well, why do you think she’s doing that or why do you think he’s
doing that?” They have trouble even stopping talking about other people. They may have
been caught in embarrassing situations where their mouth has run off on them. They’re
drawn to other people who like to gossip.

Gossip actually used to be a very big distraction for me. I was a big gossiper in college. I
was in a position in my sorority where I was looked at as somebody who was a leader and
who was really being molded in a way to being president. I was actually a vice president at
a very young age in there. I just completely self-sabotaged by gossiping about so many of
the members and all came and bit me in the booty so bad in fact that I had to drop my
sorority. I definitely know what it feels like to be addicted to gossip.

The reason why I was because I was so tired of the critic in my own head, beating me up,
that it felt good to go and talk about other people. I grew up in a family where I would
come home from school and my mom would be like, “Tell me the juice from the day. Tell
me what’s going on.” We would sit there and analyze it and talk about other people. That’s
what was a way I connected with my mom. This was a big one for me. When I went
through coaching and I realized, “Hey, this is a distraction and it’s something you don’t
have to continue doing in your life.” Because I just thought that’s how women related to
other women, to be honest.

It was so uncomfortable for me at first to break that habit because of course, I had
manifested that in my life. I had a working space for everyone gossip and friendships
where people gossiped but little by little, I started to just walk out of those situations or
not contribute to those situations. Or just catch myself and just say, “Hmm, I think I’ve
taken this too far.” I still have to do this in some ways. I have a daughter who’s in a private
school that’s very small. We have mom’s sign-outs.

Every once in a while, the conversation will turn that way of talking about somebody or
something. I’ll start contributing in a certain way. Then I’ll catch myself and say, “Whoa, I’m
going down a path I don’t need to go down.” I’ll just stop and buy my way out of it. This
one can be a really hard one to break but I will tell you, it is so worth it. Gossiping about
other people feels like crap at the end of the day, doesn’t it? Gosh, I would always feel so
bad after I said something about someone. It’s not a way to relate to other people at all.
You’ll start to cultivate new, better relationships when you’re not gossiping about others.

That will feel so much better. You’ll be able to talk about ideas and about things. I think it
was a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt that said something like, “Small minds talk about
people and big minds talk about ideas.” That’s something that’s stuck with me of any time
I’m finding myself just talking about people, I’m getting into a very small-minded place
and you are too. You don’t want to be that person. Remember, don’t beat yourself up too
much about this. We all have our distractions of choice. Gossip has just been yours for
some reason.

Now another one I test my clients for is food and eating. This one is very obvious most
times to people because they’ve either struggled with their weight. Some of my clients
even had an eating disorder at some time. Of course, they’ve gotten treatment for that
before they start working with me but they know that that is something that’s hard for
them. They may binge eat at times. They eat when they’re upset. They may use food to
make them feel better. They may eat a lot of junk food. The food is very important to them
of, “Oh my gosh, you have to eat this certain restaurant so I can eat this certain thing.” All
that stuff.

Sometimes we call these people foodies and there is a great healthy balance to have with
that but when it’s becoming obsessive of, “Oh my gosh, I have to go to these places and
need these things.” Just overly cherishing food, especially over our relationships. I’ve seen
that with people. They’ll step over their relationships in order to get a certain food at a
certain time or they’ll hide what they’re eating. I dated someone once who was always
going to the gym and always working out and then I would get in his car and I would see
like fast food wrappers that had happened after the gym.

I would have to confront him and say, “What’s going on here?” It was just some bingeeating that was going on. A lot of times food and eating people know that that’s
something for them. It’s not as a shock to them. Knowing that this is a distraction for you,
and you’re just using this to avoid your emotions can be very relieving for a lot of people
because then they know, Oh, I can heal this by just working on my mindset and dealing
with my emotions.

It’s not as complicated as maybe some people have told me it is or that there’s something
deeply wrong with me. The reality is that’s just been your distraction again, to deal with
your emotions. Now, another distraction I test my clients for is work and housework. For a
lot of people with this distraction, work is the most important thing in their lives. They
work more than 40 hours a week at times. They don’t really take vacations that much. They
become annoyed with people who are unwilling to sacrifice. They sometimes disappoint
their family or their friends by working too much.

They just work more than they really want to. They expect themselves. They feel
exhausted a lot of times, again. This one for a lot of people isn’t a shock especially for
women because it’s not really in our society as stereotypical for a woman to overwork. It is

very much for a man. For a man, if they’re coming at this and they’re looking at their
distractions and I would test them, and then they would say, “Well, work is one of your
distractions.” Some men can get very defensive about that and say, “Well, that’s just how I
provide for my family or that’s just the way it is.” Because it’s such a part of their way of
being in our culture for men to just work, work, work, work, work.

For women, it’s, “Oh my gosh, I’ve known it this whole time. People have told me, and I’ve
even had guilt about it and I can’t stop. I don’t know how to stop. It just feel so good to
achieve.” I’m raising my hand here because work was a former distraction for me. I worked
a lot in my past lives. I just really loved that feeling of that achievement and going after
those things. When things would get really quiet and I wasn’t working and I was sitting
alone or just taking time off, I would get anxious.

I would start thinking about things from my past or even in my present that I knew wasn’t
right but I didn’t really want to deal with that. Work was just a great outlet for me to feel
good and not have to think about the things that didn’t feel good. Now, another distraction
I test my client for is sex. To be honest, I don’t think I’ve had a client to date that I can
think of that tested high on this. This is definitely one for men that can be higher. These
are just people that are having sex with the wrong people.

They’re making promises to themselves with their sexual behavior and not keeping it. Like
saying, “Oh, I’m not going to have sex with anybody.” Or, “I’m not going to go out and have
sex with this person but they’re doing it anyway.” They may have more than one sexual
partner at a time. They have sex to get away from their problems. I have to feel as though
I’ve earned sex. They may not practice safe sex. They may have sex in inappropriate places.


They may be thinking about sex more than twice a day. Yes. Even more than twice a day.
There are a couple of people that come to mind though that I do know in my circle who I
could see having sex as a distraction just because they’re throwing it in people’s faces a lot
of their sexuality and talking about sex and all that stuff. Which again, there’s nothing
wrong with being sexually awakened but it comes to a point where are you doing this and
you’re not wanting to do that? Keep that definition of a distraction in your mind. Is this
going too far? Is this something I’m not really wanting to think about or do but I’m just
doing it anyway?

That’s where it’s gone into an unhealthy balance. Now, another distraction that does come
up for a lot of women is love. You may have love as a distraction if you are feeling
incomplete without a significant other in your life. You may feel high when you’re in a
romantic encounter with somebody especially those early dating months and you feel
addicted to that cycle. You establish instant intimacy with somebody. You quickly pour out
your life history to somebody. Again, you feel this instant sexual attraction to people, and
you love the high of that feeling.

You feel like you can save a partner sometimes in a love relationship. Sometimes even the
relationship is central to your identity and you can lose their boundaries in that
relationship. A lot of women I coach, as I said, have love high as a distraction. Raising my
hand on this one too. Love was definitely. a distraction for me and not just with men
either. It was with friendships, it was even with animals. There was a period of time in
college when I went from having zero cats, to having four cats in just a few months, and
that was a period of time when I was making not such great decisions. I didn’t really want
to deal with the emotions of that. I just wanted to go and get a new kitty. [chuckles]
Finally, my mom stepped in and said, “Lindsay, you’ve got to stop. This is getting
ridiculous.” Of course, not dealing with any of the emotional issues of it, but just putting
boundaries on me of, I can’t go get another cat.

Of course, that was an extreme, right? Many of us are just pouring ourselves into our
relationships and that’s great. We want to, of course, be in spaces where we’re connected
to others and we love others, but again, use that distraction definition. Are you doing these
things and you’re not really wanting to do them, but you’re doing them anyway? Okay,
that’s when it gets to an unhealthy balance. Now the next one that I want to talk about
distraction wise is caretaking. This is another one that comes up for a lot of women. They
just feel good to have people dependent on them. They prefer that their children rely on
them rather than themselves.

They think a lot about how others need to change. They love being responsible for people,
especially the people they love, but they can be judgmental and critical of others very
easily. They’d love to think of solutions to other people’s problems, and they’re not willing
to let loved ones learn their own life lessons sometimes, and even helping others gives
them a high. Again, some great qualities there. I love helping others. It does give me a high
to help others. It does make me feel good to be responsible of my loved ones, but I keep
going back to that distraction definition. I know I sound like a broken record.

Are you doing these things, and you’re not wanting to do them, but doing them anyway? I
encounter so many women who are resentful at the end of the day of all the stuff they’re
doing. They just feel anxious and overwhelmed because of everything that is on their
plates, and then they don’t know how to stop. They know there are people-pleasing, but
they don’t know how to get out of the cycle of just doing, doing, doing.

The other destruction I want to touch on is money, debt, and spending. These are the
people who are going out and they’re shopping. They get a high when shopping. They’re
using money to escape their feelings. They’re living typically from paycheck-to-paycheck.
They charge more than what they can pay off. Sometimes they wait until the last minute to
pay things. They may have little savings. They’re frequently short of cash, so they may
even borrow money. If you’re in that cycle and sometimes people really pushed me back
on this one as well, I just don’t make enough money. Or, I didn’t go to college, so I can’t
make enough money.

At the end of the day, we’re looking at their finances and really breaking it down and they
do make more than enough money. They’re just caught in this cycle of just buying and
spending to escape their feelings. A couple others I just want to touch on real quickly.
Another distraction is staying busy. These are the people that are obviously just always in
motion. They’re filling up every moment. They don’t like to be bored. You’re keeping a very
full social schedule. They may even brag how busy they are. They rarely have a night
alone.

Another one is mood-altering substances. This can be alcohol or drugs even. They use a
substance to mellow themselves out. I get a lot of people now who are smoking weed
because in certain parts of the States, it’s accepted to do that. Again, there’s nothing wrong
if you want to do that on occasion, but when I’m hearing from people, “Oh, I’m doing that
every night to unwind.” That is a big red flag of, okay, you’re using this substance to help
you distract yourself from your feelings. It’s time for you to dig deeper and deal with those
feelings. Be it with me in coaching, or maybe in counseling, it just depends on where
you’re at.

Then drama is another big one. There are a lot of people who are addicted to exciting
things. They’re going and watching those thriller movies. I can see some of this in my
daughter, she’s always like, “What’s going on? Where can I see it? La, la, la, la.” Her dad is
definitely like that he’s addicted to drama. Some people, they can be so addicted to drama
that they’re creating drama in their lives just to keep it going because they love the thrill
of that and escaping that makes sense with him. He had the whole double life.

Obviously, the last one I want to touch on here is technology. Almost every single person
that I coach these days is addicted to technology. It’s just the way that the world is
unfortunately at right now. They’re just spending hours a day on a technical device when
they don’t want to, or have to. They’re constantly looking at a device throughout the day.
They find that they are just always wondering where’s my device at. Can I find it? I don’t
know, they’re feeling drains more than they’re energized from that device, and they’re just
aimlessly searching on devices.

Those are just some of the distractions I have my clients get tested on, and I just touched
on some of the points on each one. For a lot of clients, I hear overthinking is a distraction
for them. There’s thinking about the same thing over and over and over again, thinking
about how it could have been different for them thinking about conversations that could
be different. That’s obviously a way for them to just focus in on something else versus a
bigger thing in their lives that have happened to them that they really need to deal with.

All right. That’s what distractions are, and some examples of some distractions. Hopefully,
some are sticking out to you that could be potential distractions for you just know, I test
my clients deeper on this. If you take my Become An Unstoppable Woman course with me,
but again, hopefully, you’re starting to get an idea of what your goals could be. Now, what
are distractions costing you? Obviously, they’re costing you time, energy, money, quality of
life, quality of relationships, going after your goals and dreams. Really the whole shebang
at the end of the day. All the things that we want in life is what it’s costing us.

I can’t tell you how many clients I have that come to me. They don’t even have a shopping
distraction when we test it, but at the end of us working together, they’re saying, “Oh my
gosh, I have saved so much money over the past few months because I just don’t feel
triggered to buy anything impulsively anymore.” I’ve lost weight because again, they’ve got
that distraction of overeating and so on and so forth. The benefits of coaching can be vast
my friend, very, very vast. I know I have a biased opinion because I’m a coach, but even in
my own life, I experience people who just shop on a whim. I just think, gosh, you’re
wasting so much money, and I used to be there.

I used to do those things and I just have so much self-control now to not do that. Really
remember at the end of the day, the reason why you’re turning into a distraction is
because you’re wanting to avoid an emotion. You don’t want to feel bad. That’s why, again,
it’s so important for you to deal with your emotions. Is it going to be uncomfortable to deal
with those things? Absolutely, but it’s a temporary feeling. Once you finally learn how to
release those emotions and heal them, because these are things we’re not taught in
school, then you don’t have to deal with it anymore.

You don’t have to constantly push it down and think, “Oh, this is just a part of me.” It’s not,
you just don’t know how to release it yet. Reach out to me if you want to know how to do
this and how to fully live a distraction-free life. Lindsay L-I-N-D-S-A-Y
epreston.com/assessment is always a first place to start. You just take a free assessment
where you answer a couple of questions about your life now, what you’re looking for, and
it will generate a result for you. If we’re a good fit or not, if we are, you’ll get access to my
calendar, to book a free discovery call so we can talk and learn more about your life now
and where you want to go.

A little pitch there, but let’s go back to distractions. Again, we talked about what they are,
what it’s costing you. What does distraction-free living look like? What does it look like
when you’re pretty in control of your day and how your day is spent? You’re not doing
these things you don’t want to do. Well, you get a lot done, a lot done. It almost feels like
you are in control of time in some ways. There’s some theories out there and I forget the
name of it. I want to call it like Newton time or something where it just feels like you’re
morphing with time in that way, because you’re just living at a whole new level. You’re in
control of pretty much almost everything that’s going on in your day.

Of course, we can’t control external things. Like you get in your car you can’t necessarily
control if somebody hits you or not, or whatever, but you’re very much in control of
yourself. Because you’re so in control of yourself and your emotions, anything external that
happens to you just as a blip on the radar most times. Now, of course, there’s bigger things
that come up from time to time, but again, you know how to process your emotions. You
process those however long it takes, and you just move on. You don’t just sit there and
numb yourself out with these distractions.

I mentioned I’m in this distraction, free-living place. Of course, I still have to manage my
phone from time to time, but anytime I’m starting to go to that place where I’m scrolling
my phone too much, I’ll ask myself, ‘Am I really wanting to do this right now?’ If the
answer is no, and I think, well, why am I doing it anyway? Then I start asking myself
questions of what is it that I’m avoiding? What is it that I’m trying to numb out and not
feel at this time? Just asking myself those simple questions allows me to then approach
life again and say, “Ooh, okay, I really need to have this conversation with my husband, or
handle this one thing going on in my business or go find another activity that will recharge
me. Maybe go take a bath or take a walk instead of sitting here scrolling my phone.” We
want a life we’re in massive action. We’re going after our goals and dreams, we feel like we
can accomplish so much in a day, but we still need downtime. We still need that self-care,
or what I call do you time where you’re spending time, recharging your buckets. That’s just
a human need we all need, and some of us need it more than others. I’m raising my hand
on that one because I do. It’s just very important.

We’re still having our quiet, reflective, recharging time, but for most of us, those
distractions aren’t even recharging us. They’re draining us. They may give us a hit of
endorphins, but then after the fact, we have to clean up the mess afterwards. Think if you
go on a shopping spree, you charge on your credit card, you come back and then, oh my
gosh. Now all of a sudden you have this debt that you have to pay off. Or you go out with a
guy that, you know you shouldn’t be dating. You have to clean up the next day of, “Oh
gosh, what choices did I make?” Did I make choices that harm my health, do I need to go
handle that? Oh, now I have this guy texts me. I know I really don’t want so on and so
forth.

If we’re even over care-taking it can cause issues with our kids and they can start to
become really clingy with us. Then all of a sudden we have behavioral issues and it
snowballs into a bigger problem. Distractions really aren’t a great thing my friends. Again,
they’re great in small doses when we intentionally want to do those things, but if we’re
not wanting to do them, they’re not feeding into our soul. There’s just no point in them.

They’re just a time-suck, energy suck. I can’t say it enough I feel like a broken record here.
Hopefully, you’re getting the purpose here. Distractions are not a way to live at all, and so
many people are living that way. They’re just robots going day-by-day of, well, this is as
good as life is going to get, and it’s just a lie. You can always make life better, and that
doesn’t mean that we always have to be improving ourselves. I do believe there are times
in our life when we just need to slow down and enjoy the ride, but if you’re trying to go
after something, a new goal or dream or whatever you want to call it, and it’s just not
happening and you’re getting frustrated. You feel like giving up you start maybe criticizing
yourself, putting yourself down.

Maybe you start playing the victim card of well, XYZ is going on in my life, and this is
what’s causing it. That’s a tale-tell sign that it’s time to do some personal development
work of you’re just stuck in a pattern and we need to shake things up a little bit to get you
to where you need to go. I’m going to circle back here of what I said earlier in this podcast
of it kills me when people are giving up on their goals and dreams, because they think,
“Oh, it’s this external stuff, or maybe there’s just something wrong with me or I don’t have
what it takes or whatever.”

It’s like, no, no, no, no, no, no. You just need some mindset help to get you there. Maybe it’s
just some emotions we need to process and figuring out what distractions you have, where
we can find pockets of time. There’s a study out there that says that women after they
become mothers, they become so much more efficient with their time, and I have seen this
happen two times in my life now having my two kids. Now I’m managing almost two-yearold and a nine-year-old and my nine-year-old is heavily involved in things. My two-yearold requires a lot of my time and energy and focus when I’m with him.

I’m always finding pockets of time of, “Oh, I have 15 minutes here. Let me write these
emails, or I have five minutes here. Let me see what I can do here.” I just feel like I get so
much done in a day, despite having a lot going on, and you can live that too my friends.
You don’t have to wait to have kids even to feel that way you can live a life where you’re
just constantly moving forward to your goals and dreams. You don’t feel stuck anymore
and getting rid of distractions and the deeper level there of getting rid of your emotions
and those bullet holes I mentioned are those limiting beliefs of things that are holding you
back is your ticket to creating a massively productive and fulfilling life, my friend.

That’s what I have for you today. Hopefully you have some takeaways from this and you
have some new awareness about some distractions that you can cut in your own life.
Remember to reach out to me, if you feel called to take your life to a new level. This is a
time when my emails start popping up and my phone starts ringing a little bits of people
who are serious about getting their goals. They’ve tried almost gosh, two, three months
now to go after their goals and dreams, and it’s just not happening and they’re
contemplating giving up. Instead, I want to encourage you to do not give up, reach out for
help, and that help can be me. All right. lindsayepreston.com/assessment is the first step.
All right

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