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If you’re over checking off life’s customary boxes and want deep fulfillment instead today’s podcast is for you. Join me as I teach you how to accomplish YOUR dreams.

ACCOMPLISH YOUR DREAMS

Nov 30, 2020 | GOALS | 0 comments

“It always seems impossible until it’s done”

How to Accomplish Your Dreams

Deep down in your core you KNOW it’s possible to achieve all and more you want in your life because you’ve experienced glimmers of success here and there.

You’re a barrier breaker who knows how to make sh*t happen.

What you have today in life is pretty darn good…but, it’s not enough for you.

You want DEEP FULFILLMENT. You’re over checking off life’s customary boxes.

You want more.

YOU WANT:

  • An amazing career that you KNOW you’re meant to be doing in the world. One in which you leave a legacy of impact and change.
  • Personal relationships that EXCITE you and make you feel deeply connected because they bring out the most authentic version of you every day
  • More than just your surface-level labels like “daughter,” “sister,” “wife,” or “mom.”You want to live with a life purpose that allows you to BE and FEEL deep fulfillment no matter who you’re around and what you’re doing.
  • Your financial life to be AMAZING. You don’t want to stress about money or spend on silly things that in the long-run don’t matter. Instead, you’re earning what you want, saving what you want and experiencing life how you want because your finances and financial habits support your dreams.
  • To feel peaceful. Yet, you want a confidence that knocks people’s socks off too. You know what you want and how to go after it. People are in awe of you because you make accomplishment look so easy. 
  • Your health to be a priority, if not at the top of its game. You don’t want to age in the stereotypical way, you want to be an example of what’s possible!

You want to know how to knock your life’s goals out of the park time and time and time again.

You want to know step-by-step how to accomplish your wildest dreams. You don’t have time to waste, you want results now. 

This is why I created my FREE 4-day “Accomplish Your Dreams” video training. You’ll learn quickly how to break the pattern of feeling stuck & how to ACCOMPLISH your dreams instead.

You ready?

Listen in to today’s “Become an Unstoppable Woman” podcast as I cover day 1 of the training and get ready to make your dreams happen. 

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Full Transcript

This is the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast with Lindsay Preston Episode 85,
Accomplish Your Dreams.

[music]

Welcome to the Become an Unstoppable Woman podcast, the show for goal-getting, fearfacing women for kicking ass by creating change. I’m your host, Lindsay Preston. I’m a wife,
mom of two, and a multi-certified life coach to women all over the world. I’ve lived
through enough in life to know that easier doesn’t always equate to better. We can’t fear
the fire, we must learn to become it. On this show, I’ll teach you how to do just that. Join
me as I challenge you to become even more of the strong, resilient, and powerful woman
you were meant to be. Let’s do this.

[music]

Hi there, Ms. unstoppable. Welcome to yet another episode of the show, so happy to have
you here. Today, I am going to let you listen in to day one of my free Accomplish Your
Dreams training series, that I typically only give to people who subscribe on my email list.
I’m going to give you it today for free, for nothing, not even an email address. As you listen
today, I’m going to walk you through day one of the training. It’s a four-day training in
total. On this day, we are talking about how to paint a vision in your life, so that you can
go out and, of course, accomplish your dreams.

Get ready. Today is punchy and fast, but yet, it allows you to think. It gives you some
homework exercises on what to do to create a bigger vision for yourself. I just released this
training, I think like two or three months ago. I haven’t gotten a ton of feedback back on it
because it’s pretty new. The feedback I have gotten on it, everybody says they love day one
the most because it is the most fun since they are painting the vision of this dream life
that they want to create.

Get ready. Get excited. You’re going to paint a very great big vision today for your life. If
you like what you hear, realize this is only day one, there are three more days after this
training. To get in on that free training, you’ll just follow the link that’s in the show notes,
and then it’s also in the outro of this episode as well. Enjoy this training, my friend.

Hi there, my friends. Welcome to the Accomplish Your Dreams free training. This is day
one. Today we are going to do something called paint the vision. I’m so excited to have
you over these next four days as I teach you how to accomplish your dreams. Get excited,
it’s going to be a fun journey. In case we haven’t met yet, I’m Lindsay Preston. I’m a multicertified life coach to go-getter women, and I help them accomplish their dreams. This is
what I do all day long.

I help them accomplish their dreams in a way where they feel better than ever in the
process and they don’t give up the success they’ve already built, because most of my
clients, they have already had success. They’ve built a good life, but now they want a great,
excellent, spectacular, whatever you want to call it, life, but they don’t want to give up
what they’ve already built already. I help them strategically move into a place where they
can have it all kind of thing.

All right. If you’re here, you likely feel like you have some dreams you want to accomplish,
there’s just some things that you feel like you’re just not able to do on your own and that’s
very common. Most women I work with, they’ve been barrier breakers, and they have done
some awesome things in their life, but for whatever reason, they’re just not able to take it
to the next level. They’re feeling a little bit stuck and/or they’re realizing, “Hey, maybe I
need some help with this. Maybe it’s okay to reach out to somebody like a life coach to
help me get it all.” That’s what I do.

It’s so super fulfilling. It’s so awesome. I love what I do. Every single day people ask me,
“What is it like to love your job?” It’s incredible. I want this for everybody. I want everybody
to have a career that they love, a life that they love. I know it sounds corny, but it’s so true.
Living a 10 life is so much better than you can even imagine.

I was once living a life that was pretty so-so. I was actually a lot worse than most of my
clients when they come to work with me. I actually just got out of a divorce, I found out my
then-partner was living a double life with another woman. I was 28 years old at the time, I
had a two-year-old, I was a stay-at-home mom, and so it rocked my world. I didn’t have
any money, and now I was in this high-conflict divorce, figuring out this whole double life
thing. I had to really pick up the pieces of everything.

Before that though, I had a short career in human resources and I also owned a dance
studio. It was a lot of changes going on. By the time I graduated college, I went to TCU,
and then having these different positions and then becoming a mom, and then all of a
sudden, it seemed like my whole life was falling apart. I got to rebuild it from scratch. I had
actually gone to therapy for a year.

When I was going to therapy, I was still in my marriage, and I was telling her, “I think he’s
cheating on me. I just have these feelings.” She told me that I was catastrophizing and that
I had anxiety and depression, instead of really listening to what was going on inside of me.
Therapy burned me a little bit, to be honest with you, and so when my divorce finally
happened and everything came out, somebody mentioned life coaching to me. I thought it
was so wacky and woo-woo and weird. I didn’t think it had credibility, but I thought, “What
have I got to lose at this point.”

I invested the last few thousand dollars that I had in savings in coaching and went for it
and I’m so glad that I did. As I was a client in coaching, it was just incredible. In just a few
weeks, I made so many changes. I learned who I was on a deep level. I found that coaching
was the profession I always wanted, I just didn’t know it existed. I had a background in
psychology, and as I said, human resources, and so it kind of all came together to create
what I have today.

I have been coaching now for six years, at least at the time of this recording, which is mid2020. I’ve helped hundreds of women all over the world accomplish their dreams and get
what they want. I’m glad you’re here. You ready to get started? As I said, today, we’re going
to paint the vision, `okay?

Before we get into painting the vision, I just want to talk about this concept called
society’s boxes. We’re all a part of it if we’re conscious of it or not, but society really
teaches us these things. You graduate high school, you go to college, you get a great job,
climb the corporate ladder, you get married, buy a house, have kids, and then you build
wealth, travel, and give back. Not bad stuff.

Some of this stuff is really great to go into, but what happens is as I find with women is
that they check off these boxes, or they check off some of these boxes and they think,
“Okay, why do I not feel better? Why do I not feel more fulfilled?” Especially if they get to
the ends, they’re like, “I should be really happy right now. I should feel amazing and I
don’t. I feel empty inside. I feel like there’s more for me. I feel like there’s this higher
calling, this higher purpose. I could be doing more.”

I just want to tell you it’s totally normal, because there’s nothing on here about being
fulfilled. There’s nothing on here about what happiness is and what that looks like. We’re
just taught that this is happiness. The only thing I see is that when women miss a box,
especially if it’s this, go to college box, they have typically, a lot of shame,
embarrassments, regret about that and that’s just silly. [chuckles] It’s just really silly at the
end of the day. Granted, I did go to college. I didn’t really even want to go to college, my
parents forced me to go to college.

I wish I was in your shoes almost in that I didn’t go to college because I think that
sometimes the pressure to go and do this is not needed. Going to college is not as big of a
deal as what it’s made out to be. For certain professions, it is. We have to have degrees for
certain professions, but there’s way too much guilt and shame around this. I also see a lot
of guilt and shame with this getting married piece.

When I encounter clients who say, “Oh, well, I just haven’t met my dream guy or haven’t
had kids.” Granted, of course, that’s a desire in you to want that, but we don’t need to have
shame and guilt around it. Sometimes, we just need a little bit of cleanup in our mindset to
attract the right person, and then be able to get all of this and more. All right, so here’s the
more. Here’s what our boxes and society really should look like or should be.

The first is to find your zone of genius. Your zone of genius is basically just you at the
highest level. What I do with my clients is I do an exercise called the puzzle of you. We
look at their strengths, their values, their passions, their purpose, their way of thinking,
gosh, so many other things, child selves, desires, all of these different things. We’re looking
for patterns and we’re looking for, “What is the big thing here? What were you sent on this
planet to do?”

A lot of times, when you sit down and you look at that puzzle, it just slaps you in the face
of like, “Oh my gosh. This is me. This is what I’m supposed to do. This is what, again, my
zone of genius is.” It’s pretty incredible to realize this and realize that you have this secret
sauce, this big higher purpose, this calling I keep mentioning.

Then it gives you so much passion and fulfillment in life to put that everywhere, in your
career, in your personal life. You cannot wait to go and do that because again, it’s the
natural part of you that you’ve likely been denying, or didn’t even know was there and now
you can let it bloom and blossom.

For me, when I did a puzzle of you type exercise, it became really apparent that I was
meant to, A, help people, and to be able to get them into action and spark change in them.
Coaching just was a really great fit. I actually thought, even before I had my own therapy
experience, that I would be a counselor at some point, and that would not have been a
good fit for me.

I really like finding awareness and helping people find that awareness and then getting
them into action. Whereas therapy at times can be where it’s a slower moving process
where coaching is awareness move, awareness move. That’s really what we should be
doing in school is helping kids, or at least in college or 20 somethings to find their zone of
genius, and then gain the skills to practice their zone of genius.

Again, for me, I said coaching was a really great profession for me based off my puzzle.
Well, then I had to go and get certified as a coach. Now, of course, in the coaching industry,
you don’t have to be certified, but I just chose to do that. I wanted to gain more skills to
practice in my zone more. I actually got multi-certified, and different certifications to be
able to go and do that.

The next thing is to learn how the brain works so you can live at your highest potential.
This is something I really wish they were teaching in schools, of just how the human brain
works. Think about it, the human brain is what’s controlling everything in your body, not
just from a physical standpoint, but from a mental standpoint, and yet, we aren’t learning
about basically the driver of your life. How crazy is that?

We’re not learning how to process emotions. We’re not learning how we can control our
thoughts. We’re not learning how we can take action based off our thoughts, just like the
basic building blocks of the brain, one of which is the brain isn’t here to make you happy,
the brain is here to keep you safe. When people are saying, “Well, I just don’t feel happy.”
Well, you just haven’t learned how to train your brain yet because all your brain wants to
do is find threats in your worlds and all the things that could harm you.

Of course, you’re just going to see life from a negative point of view. You’ve got to go in
and you’ve got to work out how to train it to get something different. Then, two, on the
emotional standpoint, so many people let their past influence their presence. Until they go
in and they learn how to fully heal that stuff, I always say you have to feel, heal, and deal
with it, then it just impacts your daily life.

For me, I didn’t have the best childhood. There were aspects of my childhood that were
really hard, a lot of emotional abuse. I had to go in and I had to heal that stuff because the
results I was getting in my life at the time when I started coaching, which as I said was I
was with somebody that was living a double life turned and out to be a narcissist. Those
kinds of things of like, “Why did I attract that?” Well, it’s because, in my childhood, I had
some things that I needed to clean up.

Once I was able to do that, boom, different relationship in my life, happily married now.
I’ve even had another child. It’s so easy once we figure this stuff out. Yet, so many people
are spinning, they’re feeling like they’re on a hamster wheel or just in this tornado of
emotions, and it doesn’t have to be that way. We just need to learn how our brain works.
The big thing too is that I wish one of the boxes that should be is, do what you want to do.
You, Y-O-U. [chuckles]

Many times parents with the best of intentions, they say, “You should go do this or be this.”
I even see this with my daughter’s father. He can be a little egotistical at times, and he’s
like, “You should be a doctor or a lawyer.” I see that starting to play out in her, she’s nine
right now. I’m very apparent of, “You know what baby? You do whatever you want to do,
whatever makes you happy. I know your dad means well, but at the end of the day, this is
about you and what you want to do in your life.”

Yet, so many of us play into this. For me, it was really taught that I go in the corporate
world, and I just climb the corporate ladder, and that’s just what success looks like. When I
got in there, right out of college, I just thought, “Is this it? Is this what I’m going to do the
rest of my life?” It wasn’t bad, but it just wasn’t deeply fulfilling. I knew I really wanted to
help people on a deep level, and I did that sort of in human resources. I help them find
jobs, if they had any employee relations issues, things of that sort, but I wanted really,
really deep change and to really make an impact.

I wish instead of trying to be forced into a box, that I was taught all of these things and
then taught, “Hey, why don’t you go do what you do based off some of this other stuff?”
Many women I meet too, they end up going into a profession just based off a suggestion
somebody made like, “You would be great in law,” or, “You would be great as an engineer,”
or, “You would be great in teaching.”

Because they don’t know what to do, they just take that suggestion, they start making
choices off of that, in a very impactful time in life, which is typically our early-20s, when
it’s like, “Oh my gosh, I’ve got to get this ball moving.” Yet our brain, if we go back to this
one, the brain isn’t fully developed until we’re in our mid-20s, and yet, we’re making all
these huge life decisions in our early-20s. It’s crazy, right?

I fell into this too even in human resources. I graduated from college with a psychology
degree. I knew at some point I wanted to be a counselor, but I didn’t want to go to grad
school right away. Somebody said to me, “Why don’t you just go into human resources.” I
was like, “Okay.” Like, just going to pick up and do whatever somebody tells me to do. I
was 22 years old at the time. It was like, “Whatever.” Yet, this is what happens, we get into
these places where we’re not living life for ourselves.

This is what deep fulfillment looks like. It’s to be able to be in your zone of genius, go out
and practice that zone of genius, learn how the brain works, so that any time you’re not
feeling your best self, you know how to manage that, and then doing what you want to do,
following your passions, your desire, your zone of genius. This is why you likely don’t feel
fulfilled is that you haven’t learned how to do these things, all right? We’re going to start
to change that.

What I’m going to teach you now is how to paint your ideal life or paint your vision as I
said. I really want you to dream big here, so just keep that in mind. We don’t want to go for
just the next step of what the next step of your life looks like but really think big picture.
There’s a couple different exercises you can do to help you do this. The first is to write out
your ideal day. This can be from the fact that you wake up, what do you do?

For me, many years ago, when I went through coaching, my ideal day was, I wake up, I’m
refreshed, I lean over and I kiss my husband’s, and my husband and I have a relationship
that looks like XYZ and I list that all out. Then I get up, and I make my children their
breakfast for school, and I just have so much energy and passion and I can’t wait to get
them to school, because then I’m going to go to a job that I adore. I get to help people and
it feels like it’s the highest version of me. I’m going through, I’m painting my whole day.

You know what’s freaking crazy about that? Is that I painted that vision, gosh, 2014, so like
six years ago, and I freaking have that. I have that. Dream big, my friends. Go through your
whole day. Think about how not only how does that look, but how does it feel. I talk about
how I have so much energy because, at the time, I didn’t have energy. I felt so drained
from just this emotional baggage and not really feeling passion towards certain things in
my life. That was a big thing that I wanted was love, connection, energy, presence. Paint
what you want and how you want to feel.

Another exercise you can do is your legacy. This is beginning with the end in mind. It’s an
exercise Stephen Covey did. If you know him, he did all the– What do they call it? The
Seven Principles of Success or something, I forget, for some reason, but he’s a big self-help
guy. He came up with this strategy of what happens or what does it look like when you’ve
passed?

What are people saying about you? What did you do? How did you make people feel? Go
into that in-depth about all the things you accomplished. What you did relationship-wise?
What were your relationships like? How did you feel in your life? How did you make other
people feel in their lives, and paint this really big picture of your life.

The third exercise you can do– This is the one I typically do first with clients, and then we
go in and we do these later in the coaching process. If you want to start here, this can be
the easiest and it’s really a life wheel. What you’re going to do is you’re going to take
different areas of life. These are usually the areas that I measure, which is relationships,
career, money, fun, health, spirituality. I want you to rank these on a 1 to 10 scale, 10 being
it’s your ideal life.

Maybe your relationship is a 6 right now. We’ll talk about what is making it a 6. We talk
about the good things and then talk about the things that aren’t so great that’s keeping
you from a 10. Then take that same area of life and say, “Okay. Well, what needs to happen
to get me to a 10 in my relationships?” Maybe it’s, find my ideal partner, heal my
relationship with my mom, maybe make more friends, or see my friends more. I don’t
know. Whatever it is, make it really clear on what it is that would make it a 10 life, and
then do that for all the different areas.

Career. Where are you now? What would a 10 career look like? Maybe you don’t know
specifically what it would look like. For me, I didn’t know what career I wanted to go to. I
knew how I wanted to feel in my career, and I knew I wanted to help people. I knew I
wanted to feel like I was using the best of the best of me. You don’t necessarily need all
the specifics, but just the general idea.

Money. Same thing. It’s your ideal money life. How much much money are you making?
How much are you saving? How do you feel about money? Gosh. What are you spending
your money on? Think of all of those fun things. Then fun. What are the things you’re
doing for fun? Think about now and then your 10 life. Maybe in your 10 life, you’re
traveling a lot because you’ve got money to go and do that, and you get to go on these
amazing trips, these luxury trips.

I get to do that now. It’s so crazy cool. I got to go to Bora Bora and stay in the Four
Seasons on my honeymoon. I just got off the boat because you have to go on a plane, and
then a little plane, and then a boat to get there. I just got off that boat and I’m like, “How
in the world did I create this life? How did I do it?” I did it in just a few years. That was
2016 when I went and did that. I did all the coaching stuff in 2014. In two years, I went
from being a broke single mom to going on a honeymoon in Bora Bora. Crazy, right?

This is the power of painting a vision, of starting to see what it is we want because then
the brain knows, “Ah, got it. Now I know what to go after.” Do the same thing for your
health and this is all areas of your health, physical, mental, emotional, do whatever you
want there, and then spirituality. Even if you aren’t a spiritual person, what does
spirituality look like to you? It doesn’t have to be this traditional religion. It can be
something bigger than that and then feel free to add any categories you want.

Sometimes clients want to add romance or sex or they want a specific area for friendships
and then parenting. I just do relationships as a whole, but you can separate this out
however you want. The big thing again is where you are now, what that number looks like,
and then get really specific, what the 10 looks like.

I just want to leave you one more time, dream big. When you’re writing this stuff, you
should feel almost like a kid again, like you’re just dreaming. You’re sitting on a tree– I
always have this picture of a kid climbing a tree and sitting on the tree and thinking about,
“What am I going to do in my life?”

In my childhood, it was sitting in my room, and I had a lot of turmoil around me with my
parents, and sitting there and thinking, “How am I going to get out of here? What am I
going to create in my life?” I would start to dream of that, but now you have this adult
brain who can dream even bigger. How cool is that, right? It should almost make you
throw up a little. “Oh my gosh. Am I going to actually go and do this?”

Your brain is probably going to talk you out of it and be like, “Ah, how are you going to go
do this? Who is this Lindsay person? Why is she making you dream big? You’re just going
to get disappointment.” Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Trust me. I had all the
thoughts. I will tell you, whatever I dream big on years ago has now been accomplished
and now I dream bigger. That’s crazy, right? Crazy. You have to believe and you have to
write that vision first.

That’s the big exercise for today. I want to leave you with two quotes. I tend to end all my
trainings with quotes. The first one is, “If your dreams don’t scare you or they aren’t hard,
they aren’t big enough.” That’s by Tory Burch. We all love a good Tory Burch bag, right?
Again, if your dreams aren’t big enough or they don’t scare you, and they aren’t hard,
they’re not big enough. Okay, so that’s why you want a big dream. Dream big. [chuckles]
Then the second is by Sarah Ban Breathnach. I don’t know who this is, but I love this quote.

It says, “Playing it safe is the riskiest choice that we can make.” So true. We think
sometimes that by being safe it’s the smart and responsible decision, and really, it’s just
leading us to a life that’s not fulfilling. When we don’t live at our highest potential and a
deep fulfillment, it can cause health issues. It can cause this overall mediocracy of life. It’s
not fun. It’s so much better on this other side, I promise you.

I know right now it feels scary and you think, “How am I going to accomplish it?”
Tomorrow, we’re going to talk about how to get into massive action with this vision. Then
we’re going to talk about, on day three, all the things that could stop you from taking
massive action. Then, on day four, we’re going to talk the step by step plan for success, and
how to really make sure you go in and accomplish this stuff. Dream big my friends. I so, so
hope you do. It’ll be worth it, and I’ll see you tomorrow in day two. Bye.

[music]

Hey there, Miss Unstoppable. Thanks so much for tuning into this episode. If you enjoyed
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how to accomplish your dreams. If you are ready to guarantee you’re going to accomplish
your goals and dreams, then it’s time to start coaching with me.

In my nine-month simple success coaching system, I am going to walk you every single
step of the way to ensure that you get the goals and dreams that you want. The first step is
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started. As always, my friend, remember, you’re only as unstoppable as you believe you can
be, so believe in yourself. You got this.

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