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UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA

Trauma is SEVERELY misunderstood (even in much of the psychology field) and that’s why many believe healing trauma is so hard or that trauma experience doesn't apply to them. In order for all of us to feel better, the understanding about trauma HAS to change. So, today I want to teach you all the ins and outs about trauma so you can understand what it is and how to heal it in order to show up in life feeling better than ever.

UNDERSTANDING TRAUMA

“It’s not the trauma that hurts us long-term, it’s the trauma defenses. These defenses hurt us over and over, again and again until we become aware of them.”

Trigger Warning: I’m talking about trauma today.  If you aren’t in the headspace to talk about this at the time, ignore this email and don’t listen to this week’s podcast episode.

Most of us think trauma is only when we witness or experience a life-threatening event (like combat, rape, or domestic violence), but trauma is SO much more than that.

As Dr. Valerie Rein, author of “Patriarchy Stress Disorder” said so eloquently, “Trauma is any time we experience a moment that makes us feel unsafe from our fullest authentic expression that resulted in developing trauma adaptations to keep you safe (like an insult, glare, unwanted sexual attention….really any moment that makes you shrink inside thinking about it).”

Based on that definition (that I completely agree with), we experience trauma often and it shows in our emotional health. When we’re experiencing a “negative” emotional reaction of more than 7 seconds, that’s a sign there’s unresolved trauma inside of us to heal.  (Crazy, right?)

OTHER SIGNS OF UNRESOLVED TRAUMA ARE…

  • Not being in touch with your desires
  • Feeling disconnected from your body
  • Experiencing anxiety or depression
  • Overthinking and doubting yourself
  • Feeling like a victim
  • Being reactive
  • Not being in touch with your emotions or avoiding emotions all together
  • People pleasing
  • Wanting to control things you can’t control (ie: anything other than you)
  • Having perfectionistic tendencies
  • Feeling “blocked” or “stuck” 
  • Feeling disconnected from loved ones
  • Feeling like you’re just going through the motions of life (vs. experiencing pleasure and deep fulfillment in life)
  • Not being creative or imaginative
  • Feeling dead inside

If you experience anything on this list, don’t worry.  Healing trauma doesn’t necessarily require years of therapy, I help women heal trauma all the time in my coaching practice in just weeks.

Trauma is SEVERELY misunderstood (even in much of the psychology field) and that’s why many believe healing trauma is so hard or that trauma experience doesn’t apply to them.  

In order for all of us to feel better, the understanding about trauma HAS to change.  So, today I want to teach you all the ins and outs about trauma so you can understand what it is and how to heal it in order to show up in life feeling better than ever.

Listen now on the player at the top of this page.

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

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OVERCOMING TRAUMA episode

PATRIARCHY STRESS DISORDER episode

INTERGENERATIONAL TRAUMA episode

“The Body Keeps Score” book on Amazon

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